Wedding vows are one of the most important parts of your big day. They should reflect who you are, who your partner is and the relationship you share. You can talk about your past, your present and your future. We understand that writing them can feel a little daunting, but here are our top tips to write vows that wow.
Research examples of vows and see which ones strike a chord with you. Think about what it is about the words and the style that you like – then you can use this as a foundation to build upon. It is also worth spending time looking at poetry passages, love stories, love letters and famous writing about love (remember, if you don’t find anything you want to include in your vows, you could use them as wedding readings).
Logistically, consider whether you will write them separately or together and whether you will make the same promises, or different promises, to each other. Think about the format and tone of your vows and promises – do you want them to be serious or humorous? Personalised or traditional?
Putting Pen to Paper
When writing your vows, bear in mind how they will sound 10 years from now. Now is the time to reflect on your relationship and why you’re getting married – the following questions might help you:
- What is the most important thing you want to promise each other?
- What qualities do you admire in each other?
- When and how did you realise you were in love?
- How have you built a life together?
- What does marrying each other mean to you both?
Remember to include promises – these are one of the most important parts of the vows. You could include a mix of promises that are broad, for example, ‘I promise to always love and support you’ as well as one that is specific to the two of you.
Practice Makes Perfect
Your vows should be easy to say and you should feel confident saying them. Try to stick to around two minutes or less – if there’s anything else you want to say to each other, you can always say it in a letter on the morning of your wedding.
As well as your vows, another way to say ‘I Love You’ is hiring light up letters to make a statement. You could spell out your names, initials, your new last name or alternatively, use numbers instead of letters and have the date of your wedding or the date you first met. This is something we can help with, please contact us on 0845 094 1162 to discuss the different options available.